22 Dec Signs of Low Self Esteem
You Care About What Other People Think – A Lot
Many people with self-esteem issues will try to get their validation from the people around them. They carefully watch their friends, family, and coworkers, seeking for that validation. However, if you put your self-esteem in the hands of others, you may not always receive the attention and love that you feel like you deserve. This can lead to depression. Another problem that often arises from caring about what other people think too much is jumping to conclusions. You keep a mental tally of everything that people say, and often, you focus on the negative things rather than the positive. You can fail to attribute things that people say and do to other problems that are occurring in their lives, rather than something that you said or did.
You Constantly Compare Yourself
Another sign of low self-esteem is comparison. There is a saying that “Pride finds no joy in what it has, rather in having more than the next man.” An unfortunate result of comparison is that you tend to compare your weaknesses to other people’s strengths, and of course, you will feel worse and worse about yourself. Another thing that happens when you constantly compare, is that you are unkind and critical of those around you. If you find something that you did better than someone else, you hold onto that and put others down to make yourself feel better.
You Avoid Conflict
If you have low-self esteem, you may find yourself lying in order to avoid conflict. You submit to doing things that you don’t really want to do in order to protect yourself from confrontation. If you are hurt, you pretend like you are fine rather than addressing the problem. You will never speak your mind if you constantly avoid conflict. If you bottle up your emotions, you may lash out later on.
You Say Sorry Too Much
While you should say sorry if you legitimately hurt someone (be it physically or emotionally), people with low self-esteems tend to say sorry too much. Many people, especially women, apologize for their behavior because they are ashamed to be in their own skin. You do not need to apologize for things that you cannot control or that are not your fault. You also should never apologize for being hurt.
You Are Very Sensitive to Criticism
Low self-esteem brings about an extreme sensitivity to criticism. When you are criticized, you take everything personally. If someone disagrees with you, you feel like you are being picked on. You may think that people don’t understand you, and you question your friends’ loyalty. However, this is not true. Your friends and family are concerned about you, not trying to destroy your life.